The kindness of strangers

I lost my kilt pin last month at the Stone Mountain Highland Games.

This happened at some point during the Parade of Tartans, when I marched with my Fergusson family and about 100 other Scottish clans and families in front of thousands of spectators.  The clasp must have caught on something and sprung loose, and the pin slipped free of the fabric and vanished under the feet of the masses.  I didn’t realize it until we were back at the tent.  David and I went back to look for it but it was hopeless.  Far too large a space, still too many people wandering around, too tiny of a pin.

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My Mom gave me that pin when I was elected Regional Vice-President of Clan Fergusson.  It’s not super expensive, nor even an heirloom, but it means something very special to me.

I was crushed.  When we got home that night, and without any expectations of ever recovering my brooch, I sent a message to the webmaster of the Stone Mountain Games website and asked if he could connect me to the organization’s Lost and Found.  I described the pin and gave my contact information.

Three weeks later, a lovely lady from the Games Administration – Mrs. Grey – called me and asked me to describe my pin.  “It’s gold, a thistle, with a purple stone,” I replied.

“Can you tell me about the ribbon?” She asked.

“Ribbon?” I was perplexed.  “Huh? Oh wait, there’s a snip of tartan ribbon in the pin to represent my husband’s clan, the Douglasses.”

That was the identifier she was looking for.  She took down my address and said she’d send it on.  Today, I opened the mail to find an envelope containing my kilt pin, none the worse for its journey back to me.

Thank you, Mrs. Grey, from the bottom of my heart and my thanks also to that kind stranger, who picked up the pin and turned it in to Lost and Found, knowing it meant something to someone.

“I’m reminded that no matter how hard we try, nothing we do is in a vacuum.”
Mike McIntyre, The Kindness of Strangers: Penniless Across America

 

 

Cat Rules 101

Cat Rule 417: The amount of unsolicited affection shown by a feline is directly proportional to the amount of black clothing you are wearing.

Corollary 1 to Rule 417: the fervency of the feline’s affection is directly relational to the cost to dry clean the black clothing item and the proximity of the occasion you next plan to wear it.

“If a dog jumps into your lap it is because he is fond of you; but if a cat does the same thing it is because your lap is warmer.”
A.N. Whitehead

A book by any other cover…

…would still be awesome at my quarterly Pace Cetter’s book club meeting.

Today, we were hosted by the lovely Debraleigh in her beautiful home, and had the pleasure of meeting her husband, brother and her cutey-pie son, Ian, along with her delightful fur kids (who were desperately hoping we might get clumsy and drop some cheese.)

It was a fabulous afternoon, with great refreshments and even better conversation. Unfortunately, we never got around to discussing our book.

But that just gives us more to talk about next at the next function. Which I’m really looking forward to. I can’t value enough spending time with friends, putting work and weekday stress aside and genuinely enjoying time spent with charming, funny and intelligent women. I feel recharged and maybe a little rewritten.

I can’t wait to get our next meet up on the books.

We are family

The older I get, the more I have grown to cherish my family.

This is a little surprising to me considering what a rebel and a loner I was for so many years, but honestly; they couldn’t be more important to me now.  And not just the family I grew up with – my husband’s family has become precious to me as well.

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We went to David’s Mom’s house in Augusta this weekend to spend time with my husband’s sister, Debbie, who’s visiting from San Diego.  David’s other sister, Vicky, who lives nearby, came over and spent the night on Friday, so we’ve had a lovely day and a half curled up in the living room watching old home movies (OMG, they have tons of home movies!), eating, drinking and taking crazy pictures.

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You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.

 – Desmond Tutu

 

Cat Nap

The cats have been simply exhausted lately.

They’re asleep most of the day. Just worn out!

I’m thinking that they must be sneaking out at night, while I’m asleep, to go to work. I’ll bet they wanted to get me something really awesome for Christmas, so they secretly got jobs and they’re saving up.

They’re so amazing!

M is for MoonPie – A Hellacious Belle’s Guide to Sips and Vittles of the Modern South

From my series on Southern food and drinks, I’m picking back up with the Letter “M” to tackle an delicacy near and dear to the hearts of many Southerners…

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[moon pahy]

“Moon Pie!  Moon Pie!” that battle cry of the Mobile Mardi Gras, screamed by thousands of children each year as they swarm the nightly path of parade floats, scrambling and scrapping for the hallowed treats, tossed along with doubloons and beads by masked and costumed Krewes.

Moon Pie, that marshmallow-y, chocolate-ty disc of divinity, harking back to 1917, created by the Chattanooga Bakery, per the request of a Kentucky coal miner who asked for a snack made from graham crackers and Marshmallows, “as big as the moon!”

Moon Pie that iconic duo of Southern snackdom, when served with a frosty RC Cola.

Yeah our idea of high class livin’
Is sittin’ on the porch on a cool night
Our Champagne and Caviar
Is an RC cola and a moon pie

– Tracy Byrd, Lifestyles of the Not So Rich and Famous

 

The road to Hell

…is said to be paved with good intentions.  Do good intentions become a slippery slope when lacking the mortar of manners?

“Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.”

Emily Post

My grandmother always told me that between thoughtfulness, consideration of others and my upbringing (read: the manners I was raised with), I could hold my head high among the most exalted company, even so far as to dine with the Queen.

Regardless, it’s tough for anyone trying to fit in to new situations or with new people.  Sometimes you don’t know the right thing to say or do.  Sometimes you feel that saying or doing nothing is better than failing by saying or doing something, if it’s the wrong thing.  Sometimes doing the wrong thing seems inevitable. And there’s always the damn fish fork to figure out.

Outwards in is the rule for using cutlery.  Maybe inwards out is the rule for interacting with others.

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While I’ve never dined with the Queen, my raising and grandmother’s advice has successfully carried me (albeit with some nervousness and occasional awkwardness) through interactions with people from all over the world.

If I couldn’t figure it out by watching, I politely asked.  And I listened to what was said. I learned. I smiled.  I tried again. I watched others and asked them about them. Who they are, why they are who they are.  People want to be heard.  They want to be liked.  Respected for their individuality.  Sometimes genuine care is far more important than the right words or the correct spoon.

I was in the catering business for a long time, and the best waiter I ever worked with once told me, “while there are rules for presenting and clearing plates, you ALWAYS opt for the action most gracious for the guest.”

I think that lesson, along with my Granny’s counsel, has always worked best for me.  And Emily Post’s guideline.  She’s the Queen of Etiquette, after all.   To have awareness and consideration for the feelings of others is a way towards communications. Communication is a path towards understanding.  And I think that understanding is an expressway to peace and good will, no matter how diverse people may be.

Being able to interact, with though and care towards others, is the road I aim to be on.  Whichever fork I take.

And yes, it would have been cool to dine with Emily.  I think I might just pull it off, perhaps even with a little grace. My Granny raised me well.

Wishing I was there

It was a long day of driving around and showing property today to a new client. The weather was not at all inspiring – it was a chilly, murky, drizzly, grey, meh. 

I caught myself daydreaming about the last time I was in Seagrove Beach, Florida a few months ago with my husband.  I looked up these photos on my phone (which certainly cheered me up) and I thought I’d share them with you.  ::sigh:: Can’t wait to be back there!

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Thanks for stopping by!

 

Waiter, there is too much pepper on my paprikash!

Tonight we made Chicken Paprikash for dinner.

I randomly ran across this recipe a few weeks ago and tried it out.  (And yes, it’s the same dish made famous in When Harry Met Sally. ) I don’t think this is a super traditional version of the recipe but it looked amazing.  One word for you.  Bacon.  Yes, there is bacon in this Chicken Paprikash and it’s crazy delish.  We always try to cook dinner on the weekends, so we made this again tonight.

(Warning, I kinda tweak recipes as I go, so here is my latest version)

7 slices bacon, diced

1 medium onion, chopped

1 green bell pepper, chopped

1/4 cup all-purpose flour

2 and a half tablespoons paprika

1/2 teaspoon dried marjoram

1 1/2 pounds skinless, boneless chicken (I like the chicken tenderloins, which I cut in half)

2 cups chicken broth

1 large bag of egg noodles

8 oz. sour cream

ingredients

First, dice the bacon into lardons and sauté 2 minutes.

Add diced peppers and onions.  Sauté 3 more minutes.

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Mix together flour, paprika and marjoram with about a teaspoon of salt in a mixing bowl.

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Add chicken, toss to coat thoroughly.

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Push the vegetable and bacon mixture to one side of the pan and sear chicken well, along with leftover flour mixture.  Let cook for 6 more minutes.

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Stir together the chicken, bacon and vegetables and cook 2 more minutes. Add the chicken broth and bring to a boil. Stir, then reduce the heat to medium low. Cover and simmer until the chicken is almost cooked through, about 10 more minutes.

While the chicken is cooking, bring a pot of salted water to a boil and cook egg noodles according to packaging.

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Uncover the pot with the chicken, turn the burner to high and cook 2 more minutes. Reduce the heat to low, stir in the sour cream and cook 5 more minutes. Season with salt as needed.

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Drain the noodles and ladle a very generous serving of chicken and sauce on top.

Stuff into your face.

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Yum.

(Thanks to my awesome hubs for all his hard work dicing, chopping and searing!)